An online greeting card firm has dropped “stalking” themed Valentine cards from its range after Sussex police and crime commissioner Katy Bourne spoke out.
Mrs Bourne, who has personally had to resort to the courts to deal with stalkers herself, thanked Thortful for its swift and positive response.
But she is still looking to persuade a rival retailer – Etsy – to get the message.
She was concerned that the cards “romanticised” a serious crime which affects thousands of people every year, most of them women.
This morning (Tuesday 9 February) she took to Twitter to criticise messages like: “You say stalker. I say devoted.”
Another card said: “Stalker is a strong word. I prefer Valentine.”
Others prefer criminal – and some cards featured the TV character Joe, from the Netflix series “You”, whose obsessive and fixated nature ends in a gruesome kidnapping and murder.
Mrs Bourne, the Association of Police and Crime Commissioners national stalking lead, was shopping for a Valentine’s Day card for her husband when she came across the cards.
She tweeted: “Please do not use stalking as a form of a joke on your Valentine’s cards out of respect for the thousands of victims living in fear of this awful crime.”
Others weighed in with supportive messages including Claudia Ortiz, who co-founded the stalking support service, Veritas Justice.
She said: “Absolutely inappropriate to trivialise a crime that destroys lives and sometimes even takes lives!”
Mrs Bourne endured years of torment as a victim of stalking, with unfounded claims made about her online and a threatening presence at events she went to in her role as PCC.
The courts imposed a civil injunction to prevent her stalker from contacting or writing about her but this was breached. In 2018 he was sentenced to four months in prison, suspended for two years.
Dear @Etsy -please, pls reconsider (as @thortful have) & do not use stalking as a form of joke on your valentine’s cards (or any cards for that matter) out of respect for the thousands of victims living in fear of this awful crime Thank you #StalkingIsNeverAJoke #StalkingIsACrime pic.twitter.com/BNB3Os91cr
— Katy Bourne OBE (@KatyBourne) February 9, 2021
The experience has led her to campaign for an improvement in people’s attitudes to stalking and crucially the way in which it is dealt with by the police and courts.
I think Mrs Bourne has had a humor lobotomy…
Maybe if you’d been stalked, you might feel differently. I’m no fan of censorship, but I can understand her position.